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Category: Biblical Counseling

What if I do something really bad?

Imagine being a 13-year-old girl who raised her 4-year-old sister from birth, lived in 8 foster homes in 5 months, and called 911 after seeing her mom dead (at least she looked dead) from a drug overdose on her living room floor. That is the story I heard this summer from one of the most charming… Read More What if I do something really bad?

August 17, 2012 kbonikowsky7 Comments

Lame Husband?

Here’s the situation: Joe thinks he should be something he is not. He wants to be the best at everything, but he never measures up by his standards. Some would label him insecure because he has quit trying. He quit trying not because he doesn’t think highly of himself, he quit trying because he thinks… Read More Lame Husband?

July 8, 2011July 8, 2011 kbonikowsky15 Comments

Pen and Paper

It is a rare bird who likes to write things out. I don’t. This blog is a daily discipline for me…or spanking  if I put it off. (Lots of those!) But, in an age where culture highlights emotion and restrains reasoning, putting your thoughts into something you can read and evaluate is invaluable. In my… Read More Pen and Paper

November 10, 2009November 10, 2009 kbonikowskyLeave a comment

Forgiving is unfair and brutal.

When we’ve screwed up really bad, seeking forgiveness is the only option left to us. Usually we feel dreadful remorse for our action. If only I could rewind time, I’d do everything differently! I can’t believe I did this! If only I knew now what I knew then, I wouldn’t have behaved like that! But… Read More Forgiving is unfair and brutal.

September 17, 2009November 10, 2009 kbonikowskyLeave a comment

It takes two to gossip

Do you hear gossip? If you allow slander in your presence, you are an accessory. You are enabling sinful communication when you have the power to end it. How do you stop it? Speak up Here are some ideas on how to stop the conversation. “Okay, this conversation is going somewhere I don’t want to… Read More It takes two to gossip

May 19, 2009November 10, 2009 kbonikowsky4 Comments

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